“She threatened me with a knife and told me to open my phone” —Singer Lojay shares domestic abuse experience
The singer opens up on why he hasn’t prioritized love.
Like other countries in Africa, Nigeria has a high incidence of domestic violence. In Nigeria, it is deeply ingrained in the culture that hitting a woman as a form of discipline is acceptable. Now, women are following that belief system’s lead as well. Despite how strange that may sound, it is true.
In a recent podcast with Pulse, Nigerian singer and vocalist Lojay acknowledges having been in an abusive relationship in the past. He admits that the woman had previously stabbed him, and the wound was still visible on his body.
He said that the union lasted six years, starting when he was 16 and ending only when he was 22.
The woman, who also happened to be his first love, had her good and bad times, but the violent portion began with tiny assaults and attacks like tossing shoes when she got upset, which the singer admitted to have found amusing at the time, until things became violent and more physical.
He added that because the woman had so many positive traits, he didn’t realize that the actions were abusive at the time.
“she stabbed me with a fork; that day was hilarious. She smashed a kettle on my head and dented that sh*t. Then, she stabbed me in the hand with a fork. It is a horror story; the mark is with me forever. The funny thing about the moment is that when I look back, the first strike she took was directly to my chest but because it was a fork, it didn’t really cut a lot, but what if it was a knife?”
“…the bad part was that at the time, I didn’t even realize that it was abuse. Because at the time, she’d do like 30 good things and then do like 2 f**d up things.”
The celebrity then spoke on the moment the romance came to an end. He said that he was ill and that while he was sipping water, the lady hit
